DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. Over the last few years, a male friend of ours (also married) has become interested in my wife. Of course, like most men, he finds her attractive, but I’m trying to understand what his intentions are.

He’s making comments to me about her and her body, so if he’s trying to hide his crush on her, he’s not doing a very good job. I know my wife finds him attractive too, but when I say his name he shrugs and says they’re just friends. He has a lovely wife and appears to be a devoted husband and father to his adult children.

I know my partner loves me, but his frequent comments worry me. I can’t always give my partner the attention he deserves, so should I step up my game to prevent anyone else from doing that?

Should I be concerned that this man’s intentions are more than “friendly” and talk about it openly? — SUSPECT IN PENNSYLVANIA