A woman said she asked her husband to return the puppy he bought as a “surprise” even though she said she didn’t have time to care for both the dog and the couple’s children.

“My husband and I are in our mid-40s and have been married for 15 years,” the anonymous woman writes on Reddit, adding that the couple has two children, ages 11 and 14.

The family’s senior dog died a few years ago, the woman adds, and “we’ve been talking about getting another dog since then, but maybe when the kids graduate high school.”

“Dogs are a big responsibility and I don’t have any time. Kids activities 7 nights a week and I work two jobs (50 hours total). My husband also has a full-time job but works from home three days a week,” she adds.

But recently he came home with a “surprise”. A new puppy.

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“I was angry because I made it clear that I didn’t want a dog,” the woman writes. “The kids were all excited. He said it was my birthday present. I backed down and said the dogs were a family decision and I felt like he was disrespecting me.”

Her husband was “infuriated” by her reaction and threatened to leave and spend the night elsewhere.

“He came home today and I apologized because I said he bought the dog because he wanted it and not as a sincere gift. I told him he had to give it back,” she adds.

The husband continues to discuss the separation and the wife wants to know if she is at fault.

But commenters say the husband is the problem, with one writing: “You sound like you’re experiencing an ‘acceptable state of unhappiness.'”

“Why are you apologizing for telling the truth? This dog is just a burden to you,” the commenter added. “He took the dog because he wanted to. It was definitely not in your best interest. It was clear you didn’t want it. Now he’s tricked you into apologizing for telling the 100% truth.”

Another added: “This is 100% not about the dog.”