DEAR ABBY: My son and his wife have been married for three years and they have an 8-month-old son. She stays at home to take care of the baby. My son also works from home. He has now taken a second job to make ends meet, so he works three days a week from 7am to 3pm and leaves from 5pm to 10pm and returns home at 11pm.

The wife believes in co-sleeping, which means she sleeps with the baby in the bed and my son sleeps on the mattress on the floor. This situation has been going on since the child was born. My son also does 80% of the cooking. They live thousands of miles away, so I can’t help. Almost his slave. I don’t want to say anything, but I want their marriage to last. What should I do? — RELATED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CONCERN: The last thing you should do is intervene. Unless your son complains to you about this arrangement, stay out of this. If the situation becomes unbearable, your son will take care of it.

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