DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a young adult purchasing a home in one of the highest-priced resort areas in the country; This is a financially challenging purchase, but worth it.

Although I love my friends and family, when they found out where I lived, I was amazed at the number of people who wanted to come out of the woods and visit. There were everyone from distant acquaintances from college to my cousins ​​who had rarely spoken to me before. I’ve lived all over the country, and when I lived in Nebraska or Kansas, no one bothered to visit.

Shortly after I bought my house, I felt like I was being taken advantage of and the reason for the visit was not to spend time with me, but my living situation. I quickly learned to set personal boundaries so that the place I lived did not turn into a dormitory. But some time has passed and I’m in a better position to host occasionally.

However, doing so is financially burdensome; If I allowed every friend to visit even once a season, I would suffocate. Many friends asked and added: My utilities would be unmanageable in this high cost area. As much as it sucks, I’d be more inclined to host if people offered to contribute towards utilities and food because I’d be saving them at least $300 per night on a hotel. But this might seem like I’m treating my friends like short-term tenants.

I’m considering letting a few friends stay here for a weekend, but I’m worried it will open the floodgates and disturb the other friends. I also don’t have the interest or energy to host every weekend.

Is it rude to ask guests to contribute? Thoughts on where to draw the line?