• Madison Messer posted solid relationship advice her mom gave her during a girls’ night out, but she had no idea it would go viral.
• “You need to know with all your heart that the person you marry will get you through the death of your mother and father,” Madison’s mother, Robbi Messer, said in the clip.
• “My mom has always been a source my friends can turn to for advice—she has something warm about her and people trust her,” Madison tells PEOPLE.

Recently a woman shared her mother’s wise relationship advice About the world and choosing the right partner tiktok – What followed was a viral sensation describing the emotional bonds and support of true love.

Madison Messer, a 33-year-old single social media influencer from Tampa, Fla., has a close relationship with her mother, who is also known for giving great advice.

Madison’s 66-year-old mother, Robbi Messer, is the focus of the viral clip, which has reached more than 8 million views, in the short but emotional video of a girls’ night out where conversation turns into a choice. right person to marry.

“Okay this isn’t my normal content, but a bunch of my girlfriends and I have a girls night out (sic) and my mom is giving us her advice…it’s intense but I felt too strongly not to share,” the text in the video reads as Robbi tells Madison and her friends what to look for in a partner tells.

“You need to know with all your heart the death of the person you will marry, your mother and your father. And if he’s not up to the challenge then you shouldn’t marry him,” Robbi says in the video.

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“I knew this when I married my husband, we talked about it and he knew how hard it would be for me… he knew what his job was and he told me the story of my father’s death and my husband’s death. mother. Marry a man who will do this for you,” Robbi continued.

In an exclusive interview with PEOPLE, Madison and Robbi talked about the emotional moment that went viral and the relationship advice millions of people responded to.

Robbi says, “Yeah, I’ve always given her advice,” and Madison says, “Would I take that advice?” “As I get older, I’m getting better at taking advice, and I can see things maybe a little more clearly,” he jokes.

Talking about how the video came to be, Madison explains, “My mom has always been a go-to source for advice for my friends, there’s something warm about her and people trust her.”

While one of her friends who was there that night, she went on to share that she was “going through my own relationship issues right now.” I’m going through a divorce..

“We were all having a moment where it was like: God, what are we all doing? How are you going to decide on this person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with?” he says.

Then her mother started talking, and Madison realized that this was a moment she wanted to remember.

“I stopped her and recorded her, and I never heard her say that exact thing,” she tells PEOPLE of her mother’s advice. “That was the kind of advice that made you go ‘hmm’.” “It was a really different perspective, one we’d never seen before.”

Robbi, who admits that she does not like being in front of the camera, says that she was not sure how she would feel at first when she realized that it had gone viral, but she warmed up to the idea due to the touching comments about it. video.

“Even though I personally disliked the attention, I was impressed by how it resonated with so many people. “There are thousands of people sharing their stories about the loss of a parent and whether their husbands were there,” she adds.

Robbi also said that she and her husband talked very early in their marriage about how she would cope with her parents’ deaths, and she reassured him that “you’re going to be okay and I’m going to help you get through this.” .”

An emotional Madison added that her mother’s dream for her was to find a partner who would “take my place when I’m gone.”

“Like, ‘I want you to be with someone who is so supportive and so supportive of you… my biggest fear is that I’ll be gone and you won’t have someone to replace me. And I want you to meet someone who is so strong and unconditional for you, just like I am for you. Like, ‘He’s the one you should marry,'” Madison recalls.

Robbi adds that her particular advice is that she wants her children to choose someone to be their “home” after she’s gone.

“I know that when my children encounter their home, I will no longer be their home,” she explains. “And I think the most important thing for a partner is that you don’t miss your home anymore, because that’s your home. . . . Look for your partner who will be your true north.”